One is because they really, really care about the other person and want to make their relationship stronger and better, and that only happens with open and honest dialogue that can sometimes verge into the disagreement field. I often avoided fights in my last relationship because it wasn't worth the effort; I was ambiguous about the caring factor. Perhaps I secretly knew we weren't meant to be together.
The other is a sense of self-worth. You know that you're worth him calling back/making time for you/treating you right, and you're willing to tell him that when it's not happening. Conversely, I never started a fight in my last relationship for this reason, I let my self-worth be overriden by fear because I was terrified he'd break up with me and then what would I do, who would I be without him wah wah etc....
So I've got to say, the gloves are off this time, and I'm not scared. I'm also selective. As my good friend pointed out---it's not always about me, it could be something going on with him when he acts all, well, wierd. But I'm willing to ask for what I want and say what I need this time, and sometimes it feels bad. But most of the time it feels good. Because I know, that in the end, I worked for it, whatever it turns out to be. Because fairytales aren't really true. You can't just sit around and it will happen. You have to make it happen for you.
Look what happens with 'fairytale endings':
Probably should've eaten the apple in this case.
I guess this is better than sweeping floors for the wicked stepsisters?
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