just because you can, doesn't mean you should...

Sacré bleu! Half way through October and I haven’t written. There's been work and sleeping, and in between, shopping, procrastinating on ‘chores’ I should be doing, and finding distractions both bad and good. Perhaps I need a new hobby other than screwing, drinking and writing (which, obviously, has been the lesser of the three lately). However whilst living life, I have learned some important lessons:

1. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. This means screwing other people over, or screwing over yourself inadvertently by screwing other people.
2. Sometimes we are seeking the attention without knowing it, and without knowing why. That’s why you keep screwing the people who screw you over. You can only prove the other person right by losing your dignity.
3. Sometimes the ‘why’ is something that you may never get. Whether that’s acknowledgement of some type of relationship (the recognition that, yes, you get together and talk occasionally and he considers you his confidante), the need to be the centre of someone’s world, or just the knowledge you could have the companionship if you wanted to, (on a Sunday morning, without warning, with pancakes, and a nice movie and maybe some sex).
4. Sometimes the ‘why’ is something you think you want, but once you get it you might realize you don’t. It’s a scary place to be. What if you get what you want and hate it?
5. Many ‘people’ (I’m not going to single out men here…), have lived their lives doing what they do and getting what they get by manipulating others so they don’t have to do it themselves. If you continue to do these things for them, you’re officially their bitch. Don’t do these things for these people anymore. In a nice way. Remember, you are #1.
6. If people are pissing you off, just stop talking and stare at them intently and let them babble on until they realize how stupid they are, or until some other, more aggressive person decides to die on that hill. This is Michael Corelone style. And it works, I’ve tried it.
7. Saying no sometimes makes other people realize why they need to step up their game. A half-assed request shouldn’t always get a yes. Saying no lets you keep your dignity and ensures you’re not just someone to rely on when it’s convenient. If they’re really invested you and not just the first person who says yes, they’ll ask again.

If life’s a game, I want to learn the rules so I can play to win. Hopefully these lessons will up the ante. (Did I mention these were not a result of the 'hard knock school of life lessons'? It was pretty fun along the way).